By akademiotoelektronik, 21/03/2022

Does a man's libido never die out? - ladepeche.fr

Men want to make love more often than women… Their libido is always stronger than that of women… Are these widespread notions about sex always true?

Do men always want to reunite under the duvet before falling asleep? Do they ever refuse a part of legs in the air? Is the libido of women much lower than that of men? It is enough to refer to reality to realize that these are received ideas. Even if like any cliché, this notion carries its share of truth.

Testosterone, main actress

But then, do men only think about sex as we often hear it? By asking 1,743 men and women to express their feelings after a one-night stand, Professor Anne Campbell (University of Durham, UK) tried to answer the question.

Results, 50% of the women felt pretty good, and 80% of the men admitted to being frankly satisfied. A proof of the strong impact of male sexual conquest. According to biologists, the human brain is conditioned to appreciate the number of sexual relations over a given period, more than the time and the quality of the report.

Other data, "for millions of years, the female brain has integrated the association between sex, pregnancy and investment", attests Sébastien Bohler. According to this author, even the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s, a period of emancipation, did not modify female cerebral chemistry.

And all of this is verified by hormones. “In the male brain, testosterone promotes the production of pleasure molecules such as nitric oxide and dopamine, which arouse the desire for sensuality and stimulate erection. (…) On the other hand, the more tenuous and episodic presence of testosterone in women makes the excitation slower and more random, which allows reflection and reason to take a more important part in the relationship between beings, even when the sexual act becomes imminent. »

Erection = virility

Why is man recognized as a sexual glutton? In fact, the erection is associated with “good physical health and their valiant desire”, explains Catherine Blanc in her book “Uninhibited sexuality”. But it is not enough to trigger a strong libido. The fact of having a physical, visible sign of excitement nourishes the confidence that we have in our being, in our body.

But all is not so simple. There is also a part of invisible male desire. Like women, he conceals deeper, hidden aspirations. Masculine desire can “translate his impetus for sexuality itself, the desire to meet and the curiosity of the other. A need for appeasement, comfort, or the need to see the love bond confirmed. The different expression of desire between the sexes suggests that only the visible is real. But the sex drive exists in both men and women.

The libido also allows moments of carnal intimacy guided by the need, often unconscious, of two partners "to appreciate their biological compatibility, just like kisses", as Sébastien Bohler explains in the book "Sexe & Cerveau, et if it was all in the head”.

But remember, sex is not a perfect science. “The exploration of desire, for women as for men, is delicate. It depends on the story of each and every one and not on any recipe, ”concludes Catherine Blanc.